Friday, March 22, 2013

God's Precious Jewels

As I laid in bed last night with my thoughts wondering again. Oh how did I get here and how could someone be so mean. I realized something that gave me such clarity. I am not going to go through life playing the victim. I am empowered and I can choose to go on with my life to victorious. Yes I am conceited much! But really I have 3 beautiful daughters who are the jewels in my life and whom I want to raise to know their value and worth is defined by God. I hope they do not to allow any man/woman to degrade them. So I thought about how God is the one who places value & worth in us and how I strive to see myself as God does. Here’s what I wrote to myself and my daughters but thought I’d share for other women.








All girls are precious valuable jewels. We are all created this way and yet each one is very different. The coarseness of our world helps to cut, shape and refine us into individual gems and stones. Sometimes events bring a cloudiness into our luster, but God always intended us to shine. I was not created to fear this harsh world but to embrace it and allow the events to refine me. True authentic diamonds will not crush under the pressures but shine even brighter. I want to be authentic and most of all I want to raise authentic children who will not shutter away from lives pressures. I want them to know who they are and have a confidence in the Lord and in theirselves. I want my daughters to know they are not alone and together we will get through anything. Smiling through our tears and allowing difficult times to help shape and mold us for the better. Mistakes truly are lessons when you stand up an own them. I am here not to punish them I am here to support them and help them shine their brightest. I don’t want to lock them away or say words that may devalue their spirits. What happens if you put your jewels away in a box and never take the time to polish them? Their shine is dulled, sometimes it takes a lot of work to polish them and maybe the precious metals tarnish. I want to raise my kids up with confidence in themselves and their abilities. I don’t want them to be fearful of me, but to know I am here to help them with their problems and mistakes. I want to help them make good choices and for that I need them to be able to talk to me about any and everything without fear. I also don’t want to outline every choice they make, but to allow them to take their own journeys and become a person that can think for themselves not just another blind follower with no heart or spirit of their own. I want them to be authentic not a fake that just is what the world tell them to be.







I have learned much about my failed marriage and believe me I tried to salvage it. I’ve read many books talked to many counselors, but the problem was I was alone in my pursuit to salvage the marriage. I’ve learned that the man you chose can certainly impact your ability to shine. Think of the man as the setting that you put the precious jewel in. Some are certainly more flattering than others and some just don’t work or become loose and the jewel just falls right out. Smack hitting the ground & lost forever. Men please realize if you have a precious jewel cherish it, polish it, don’t lock her away, but help glorify her beauty and protect her. In a great relationship both parties are giving 100% of themselves and their luster is so glorious. Everyone can see they shine. Not that all days are glorious but that all days you try to make the best of and your in it together. Building each other up not devaluing the other's worth by investing time to polish each other you will both shine so bright and stay forever beautiful.








To all you independent single ladies don’t forget to invest in yourself and certainly don’t settle for anyone who doesn’t see your worth. There is nothing wrong with letting your light shine and being happily in love with you. Matter a fact I think it is always best to fall in love with God and then love yourself before you attempt to love a man. Believe me and learn from my mistakes. Heartache hurts bad and the dynamics of a relationship can cause serious damage to one’s spirit and confidence. It’s taken me a long time to find my shine again. But after all life’s pressures I think to myself I’ve truly been authenticated. I haven't shattered beyond repair just needed some polishing. God Bless all of God’s precious jewels & I hope you find your shine.




Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Breanna's Juvenile Arthritis Battle Update

It has been a long time since I have posted anything. My college has taken up much of my time. I am set to graduate this May and hopefully join the workforce again this time as a Physical Therapy Assistant. Breanna has had her ups and downs this year. She is in Kindergarten now. We have not had many problems with her joints. We have been told she is in a medicated remission. I am still not a big fan of Methotrexate. I know it is what has made the arthritis stay away, but giving your child a shot every week stinks. We have still been fighting the side effects of medications. We are in the process of weaning her off all her arthritis medications. Meloxicam has been gone for a month now and so far, no changes in her joints or her stomach problems. We go to see the rheumatologist in 3 months if all goes well they will reduce the dose of methotrexate. Breanna really wants to just stop it all. She has had to be accommodated due to all the illnesses she picks up at school. She is a smart kid and knows that it is the methotrexate that causes her to get sick easy. She doesn't like to seem different and not keep her supplies with the other kids. She hates the smell of sanitizer "it smells like shot" she says referring to the alcohol smell. She has also realized that the methotrexate gives her the stomach aches. She told me, "But mom I just started feeling better a couple days ago and now it's shot night. It will make me feel icky again." I don't know what to do or say really. I try to tell her about what good the methotrexate has done. But she was only 14 months old when it began she doesn't remember the bad times of arthritis all she remembers is the shots. I am really hoping that she is in a state of remission that will remain even after all meds are gone. My baby needs a chance at childhood without all these doctor appointments, labs, shots, medication, too sick to play or go to school for weeks at a time. Please pray that this will last long enough to give her a glimpse of a care free childhood. While we wait for the cure we would love a non-medicated remission. As long as there isn’t a cure it is somewhat like this gloomy cloud lurking over our head making us fear if it will strike again. I pray for everyone that battles arthritis pain free days.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Juvenile Arthritis is More Than Aches and Pains

Everyone knows someone who has been diagnosed with arthritis. Most commonly the people affected are grandmothers, grandfathers, aunts or uncles. Not many people realize their child could be affected by arthritis. There are approximately 300,000 children in the United States who battle with arthritis every day (“Arthritis Foundation” 2). That’s a great deal of children with arthritis. The effects of a child battling arthritis go much deeper than just aches and pains. A child with arthritis may look fine and not seem like they are sick at all. The complications of arthritis go much deeper than what meets the eye. From time to time, children are accused of faking. Children with arthritis often wake in the mornings in great pain, but once they have exercised their joints the children seem fine. Juvenile arthritis is an autoimmune disease. For some unknown reason the child’s own immune system to starts attacking healthy tissues of the joints. The cause of arthritis is still unknown. Juvenile arthritis is often called idiopathic, meaning unknown origin (Smyth 1). The term juvenile rheumatoid arthritis was the prior terminology for all children with arthritis. The terminology has sense been changed to just juvenile or idiopathic arthritis. Scientists have discovered a genetic predisposition link to the HLA-B27 trait but not all people with the trait develop arthritis. Some environmental contributors to arthritis are certain illnesses and injuries. Stress can also contribute to a flare of arthritis (Ellis 5). Again, no one is quite sure why kids get arthritis. Children can show signs of arthritis as young as six months of age. A flare is when the arthritis is causing active inflammation within the child’s body which results in mobility problems and pain. Getting a diagnosis is often difficult and time consuming. A lack of awareness about juvenile arthritis exists. Many times, kids are misdiagnosed or have to suffer tremendous pain before physicians recognize that arthritis is the cause of the suffering. Many types of juvenile arthritis exist, but juvenile arthritis has three main groups children will usually get categorized in. The type of arthritis a child has can sometimes help predict the severity and course the disease will take. Children with arthritis have to be monitored by specialists in pediatric rheumatology and other specialists in the treatment of juvenile arthritis. Doctors like these are often hard to find. Travel is usually required to see a specialist. The treatment consists of four types of medications. The effects of long term use of these medications can take a toll on the child. Some secondary conditions evolve from the onset of arthritis. Some conditions are from the long term use of certain types of medications. Other conditions are just other spin-offs from chronic inflammation heading to other parts of the body. A childhood should be about fun, not stressful travel to doctors’ offices to be pricked and poked on. Chronic pain management can take a toll on everyone connected to the suffering victim. The rigorous schedule of medications and doctors’ appointments really seem too much at times. All of the appointments and treatments are necessary for a child to maintain ground when battling arthritis. Juvenile arthritis is far more than a few aches and pains.
Getting a diagnosis is often the hardest part. Children are usually first treated for a sprain and told to stay off the joint. An arthritic joint needs to move in order to prevent molding. Molding of a joint is when the joint is stuck in a fixed position because of arthritis. Lack of use in an arthritic joint will only worsen the condition of the joint (Lehman 80). Other children are in and out of the hospital with variety of strange rashes and high fevers. A delay in diagnosis causes much more pain and agony for the children. Hard work will be required from the child to regain what arthritis has taken from their joints. A diagnosis can take months or even years. After arthritis is suspected the child is referred to a pediatric rheumatologist. The rheumatologist may not be able to put a name on the type of arthritis the child suffers from because the rheumatologist will need to follow the symptoms for at least six months (Lehman 86). The physicians will take in account what happens within the first six months of onset. Those first symptoms will determine the diagnosis. Arthritis can rear its ugly head in many ways and how it does can help determine what type of arthritis is causing the pain and predict the severity of the disease. Most commonly, arthritis will just be one or two swollen joint with chronic inflammation. These joints are very hot, red, and painful. If the child has four or less joints involved they will be diagnosed with pauciarticular or oligoarticular; both terms mean few joints. “About half of the children have pauciarticular JRA” (Gray 7). The first type of arthritis is the least severe and effects young girls more often than boys. Other times, arthritis hits many joints and hard. The second type of arthritis can cause children to be completely bed ridden. This type is called polyarticular meaning many joints. Arthritis can also start with high spiking fevers over 104 and rashes sometimes without joint involvement. The third type of arthritis is called systemic. Systemic is the most severe of the three. Systemic arthritis not only affects joints but also soft tissues and organs. Rarely, systemic arthritis is fatal. Understanding children do not fit neatly in these categories is important. The arthritis will often change and show symptoms of one or even two other types of arthritis. Juvenile arthritis is very complex and can change. The change does not mean the physician was wrong. Juvenile arthritis just works that way for some children. Every child will respond differently to the disease. The symptoms present within the first few months of diagnosis will determine the diagnosis anything outside of those symptoms are secondary circumstances (Brewer 14). Blood work is done to determine if the pain is arthritis and to rule out other diseases with the same symptoms. No one test determines arthritis, but a combination of history and tests. Blood markers for arthritis include the erythrocyte sediment rate which shows inflammation levels within the body. All children with an arthritic flare have elevated erythrocyte sedimentation rates (ESR). The ANA levels which stands for antinuclear antibody is a definite glitch in the immune system causing an antibody to attack itself. Children with a positive ANA are more at risk for the arthritis to attack their eyes. Child with positive ANA will have to be monitored for inflammation of their eyes (Foster 3). Inflammation of the eyes is not easily detected without an eye exam. If the ANA levels get really high the physician will suspect Lupus-SLE. Lupus-SLE can cause arthritis along with heart problems. Children can go back and forth between the two (Brewer 21). The last blood marker is the RF which is the rheumatoid factor. Yes, some children will have the same rheumatoid arthritis as adults. Arthritis is the number one reason that healthy adults have to quit work and go on disability (“Arthritis Foundation” 1). Children with juvenile arthritis are determined to live normal lives while battling this disease. The long term effects of juvenile arthritis can mean many joint replacements over the years. Juvenile arthritis can also mean children losing their dreams of becoming police officers and firefighters. Aches and pains do not usually take away lifelong dreams.
In order to avoid disability children with arthritis have entire teams of healthcare providers monitoring their well being. “A pediatric rheumatologist is the most qualified physician to care for a child with JA” (Tucker 35). These doctors specialize in children with arthritis in. Pediatric rheumatologists have a greater understanding of what arthritis means for a child and what medications are safe to use. Pediatric rheumatologists are hard to locate and children will be lucky if they can find one in their area. “13 States lack a pediatric rheumatologist and throughout the country provider to population ratios exceed practice capacity” (Duke vii). Children often travel hundreds of miles to see a pediatric rheumatologist. Regular check-ups are usually scheduled monthly. Some children have IV infusion medications which have to be administered in the office weekly. When children have a bad flare they need to be seen multiple times in one week. Children also need to get help to regain or overcome the joint motion arthritis has taken from them. Children will often develop contractures making movement of the limb affected impossible. Arthritis can really impede on a child’s mobility. In the book, Your Child with Arthritis a Family’s Guide for Caregiving, the authors explain the importance of therapies:
Physical and occupational therapy are crucial elements of the treatment plan for children with arthritis. Therapy is as important as medications perhaps even more so! Medications reduce pain and inflammation, but medications alone will not restore lost motion in a joint or lost strength in a muscle. Strength and motion can only be regained through exercise. Physical and Occupational therapy are necessary to: keep joints mobile, keep muscle strong, regain lost motion in a joint or strength in a muscle, make everyday activities like walking or writing easier, improve general fitness and minimize pain. (Tucker 80)
Occupational therapists have special gadgets to help make daily tasks easier, like hooks for putting on socks and shoes. Physical therapists help evaluate quality of the child’s joints and quality of the joint’s mobility. The therapists also have treatments to help manage the pain. There are also exercises to help get the mobility of the joint back without surgeries. Finding a therapist for really young children can also be difficult. Not every therapist wants to work with children or has the proper equipment needed for working with children. The lack of therapists means more travel for children to far away clinics to appointments needed weekly. “It is definitely worth the travel to be seen by the physicians who specialize in the specific care of children with arthritis because their needs are so specific” (Lehman 32). All these doctors’ appointments and travel force the child to miss out on school causing them to fall behind. The travel and the work of treatment needed to cope with arthritis can be emotionally draining. “Psychologists are commonly employed, as the child's inability to perform age specific tasks without assistance may trigger depression” (Morgan 1). A positive outlook on things helps with the arthritis. Depression and stress can make the condition worse. Juvenile arthritis can affect the mind and body. Juvenile arthritis is so much more than aches and pains.
Four main types of medications are used to treat juvenile arthritis. “The first goal of drug therapy is to reduce inflammation (swelling), relieve pain and maximize ability to do things. Long-range goals are to prevent disease progression and destruction of bone, cartilage and soft tissues such as muscles, tendons and joint capsules” (“Arthritis Foundation” 1). The first line of defense is a good old NSAID (non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drug). A NSAID is like your ibuprofen or naproxen which can be purchased over the counter without a prescription. NSAID drugs help with inflammation and pain. When taken over long periods of time the drug can be damaging to the stomach, kidneys, liver and heart (“Drug Guide” 1). NSAID drugs offer little to no relief when given alone for patients battling arthritis. The next line of defense is DMARDSs (disease modifying anti-rheumatic drugs). DMARDs are still fairly new and the mechanism of how these drugs work is not completely understood. DMARD drugs are your hydroxychloroquine and methotrexate. DMARD drugs have been known to cause stomach, kidney, liver, lung and heart damage. They can also cause mouth sores, vitamin deficiencies and low immune systems. Some DMARD drugs have been taken off the market because of increased risks of pediatric cancers. DMARD drugs are administered by injection at home by the child’s parents. DMARDs have been so effective in the treatment of juvenile arthritis parents and patients are willing to take the risks (“Arthritis Foundation” 1). The third line of defense is steroids. The steroids can be given orally or injected directly into the joint. Steroid drugs can give immediate relief for some patients. The effects do not always last long and tolerances of steroids are built by patients. The side effects of steroids orally are acne, blurred vision, cataracts or glaucoma, easy bruising, difficulty sleeping, high blood pressure. The side effects of steroid injections are risks of infection and damage from the injection (“Drug Guide” 2). The last group is the biologic response modifiers or biologics. The biologics are the newest of drugs and are the least understood. The biologics are known to block certain proteins used by the immune system to cause inflammation. Research is being done now to try and develop a more effective and personalize drugs to treat juvenile arthritis. “One Day your child’s doctor may be able to design a personalized treatment plan for her arthritis based on a sample of their blood” (Dunkin 1). Doctors already know certain medications are more effective on different types of arthritis. New researches of genetics are leading doctors to believe there are many more subtypes of JRA than what is currently recognized. With new research doctors may also be able to predict if the medications chosen for use will cause side effects of a particular child based off of genetic predispositions (Dunkin 6). The new research is also proof of juvenile arthritis being much more complicated than the occasional aches and pains.
There are several other secondary conditions caused by the arthritis spreading to other areas of the body. Uveitis is inflammation of the eyes. Uveitis is often asymptomatic and is only detected by an eye appointment where the eyes are dilated. Eye exams are done up to every four months for the children who are ANA positive. Insurance companies and doctors do not always understand the necessity of the eye exams. “90% of children that have pauciarticular with a positive ANA will develop uveitis” (Foster 8). Because the statistics put these children at a greater risk eye appointments are need more frequently. If gone undetected uveitis will leave the patient blind (Lehman 89). Arthritis does not just hurt the body but can also take a child’s sight away. Inflammation can also go to the tendons and soft tissues surrounding the joints causing tendonitis. The most life threatening inflammation can go to the pericardium or liver causing inflammation around the heart or inflammation of the child’s liver. Psoriasis is another problem for children with arthritis. This condition is referred to as psoriatic arthritis. There can be a leg length discrepancy because of the inflammation affecting just one side (Tucker 95). Other conditions arise because to the long term use of medication. Acid reflux disease comes from over use of the NSAIDs. Acid reflux disease can cause major problems for a child. When acid reflux disease occurs the child is referred to another specialist, a pediatric gastroenterologist. The child with acid reflux is then prescribed more medications to control the acid in the stomach. Often times, the children with acid reflux are put through test so the doctors can see what is actually going on within the abdomen. Biopsies are done to rule out other conditions. The medications given for acid reflux in juvenile arthritis patients are usually high doses of drugs not commonly used for children. Pneumonia is a common problem for children with arthritis. Pneumonia in children with arthritis can be caused by certain medications or acid reflux disease. Blood work is done monthly, to monitor the arthritis and to check the liver enzymes to make sure the medications are not causing damage to the liver. Urine analyses are done to check on the function of the kidneys. Sometimes chest x-rays are done to check for damage to the lungs (Brewer 79). All of these test and procedures are a great deal more than just aches and pains for a child battling arthritis. Children with arthritis are often referred to as juvenile arthritis warriors. The battle of arthritis is often very hard and these young children have to diligently battle.
The hours spent traveling to doctors appointments and waiting to be seen seem like an eternity for a child just wanting to play. The rigorous schedule gets to everyone in the family. “A child’s chronic illness affects every member of the family. It consumes the family’s time and financial recourses and it changes the way family member’s interact with each other” (Tucker 274). Raising children is hard enough without adding in all the issues a chronic illness brings. Children miss school and parents miss work. “Having a child with rheumatic disease can have a dramatic effect on a marriage” (Tucker 280). Dealing with juvenile arthritis requires teamwork by parents. Work needs to be divided up to prevent one parent from missing work all the time. Turn taking may be the best way to handle the immense amount of appointments. One parent may do the therapy sessions while the other parent does the routine check-ups at the rheumatologist clinic. Good communication is the key to maintaining a strong relationship and dividing up duties so one parent does not feel overwhelmed. Another rigorous schedule for administering medications exists. Parents and children are left exhausted from all the work put into trying to manage juvenile arthritis. Explaining to a child why they have to do all the appointments and treatments is difficult. It is even more difficult to explain why the child still has pain and cannot keep up with the other children. Family outings become difficult to plan around a child that could feel fine one day and the next not be able to get out of bed. Amusement parks require heaps of walking and wheelchairs are often needed. Juvenile arthritis slows down the entire family. Siblings are left feeling guilty when the child with arthritis prevents the family vacations. Siblings can also feel left out and even jealous at times because of all the extra attention the suffering child gets (Tucker 278). Most of the time, the arthritis will calm down and a normal life will continue. Talking to a therapist can often be beneficial for the siblings as well as other family members. Family wants to help a child suffering from arthritis, but they also realize someday this child will grow up and be on their own. Children with arthritis have to learn how to manage daily skills independently (Huff 5). It is important not to accommodate the child so much that they never learn how to manage with daily activities on their own. From time to time the child’s physician will back down their medications. Some children will be lucky and they will find an effective medication and the arthritis will go into remission. Remission can be with medications and no signs of inflammation or immobility. Total remission is when a child is able to go off of the arthritis medications entirely. The arthritis is not exclusively gone. The lucky children will still be monitored by their rheumatologist. Remissions can last a long time, but there is always a chance an arthritic flare will hit again. There are a lot of long term worries with this disease: how will the medications affect the child? Will the child be able to have children of their own? Will their children have arthritis? Can they play team sports? Will the child’s school understand all the missed days? Will the child be able to walk to school? Can the child get up the steps at the school? Can the child get all the writing done at school? What kind of jobs will the child be able to do when they are grown? The list can go on and on. Juvenile arthritis is a great deal more than just a little aches and pains.
People need to be aware children do get arthritis. Remarkable strides are made by children with arthritis to try and maintain a normal life. “While this is normal for aging bodies, many children also feel this frustrating physical pain or discomfort” (Morgan 1). These children are battling a disease that has the power to cripple some grown-ups but these children show remarkable strength and pain tolerance. Even though they are faced with very grown up problems they still manage to find ways to have fun and be a kid. Author of the book, Living with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis describes life with arthritis by stating that:
Juvenile arthritis can make it hard to just get up in the morning. Joints hurt and are very stiff. Getting ready for school can be tough. A child with JRA feels pain when he or she gets dressed. Even putting on socks or tying a shoe is hard and painful. His or her hands hurt while eating breakfast. Brushing one’s teeth makes the jaw ache. At school it is hard to write because their hands hurt. They may not want to stand up because their knees are sore. (Gray 15)
Even though a child may look fine in the afternoon a morning with arthritis could have still wreaked havoc on the day. Watching a child push through a painful morning is hard for parents and siblings. Every task seems like a mountain to climb. Some children are accused of faking because the pain is much more tolerable later in the day. Parents must travel great lengths to get their children properly diagnosed and treated. There is a great need in the United States for pediatric rheumatologists. If more pediatric rheumatologist existed the travel time would be less and proper diagnoses would be quicker. Educating parents and children are about what they can do to help manage juvenile arthritis is very important. Doctor’s appointment and therapy sessions are also very important for a child so the arthritis does not cause permanent damage to young still developing bodies. Medications are not always pleasant but are a necessity. Without medications many children would be bed ridden in horrible pain and their bodies would end up with deformities from the arthritis. Juvenile arthritis does affect all those around the child. There is a need for a team to help support with the demands this puts on a family. The arthritis foundation holds an annual juvenile arthritis conference to bring families together for educational workshops and moral support. Having a child with arthritis can make one feel alone and helpless. Knowing other people in the world are suffering from juvenile arthritis is very empowering (“Arthritis Foundation” 1). The effects of juvenile arthritis are much deeper than just aches and pains. By educating yourself on what is next to come one can be prepared for the worst and still hope for the best.


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Wednesday, April 21, 2010

My daughter's Juvenile Arthritis

Breanna was only 14 months old when it all began. I just started a job at the state school for severely disabled children. I think that was a blessing from the lord preparing me for what was next to come. For her it hit all at once. One morning she could not straighten or bend her right knee. My new boss was very understanding. Doctors thought it was a sprain at first. Because her X-rays were all normal they knew it wasn’t broken. Our directions were to give her ibuprofen every 6 hours and to keep her off of it. Bring her back in a couple of weeks if she was not better. I brought her back in just a couple of days. The swelling was getting worse: really hot, swollen and she would wake from naps in great pain. She began to walk at 9 months old and now at 14 months old she could no longer walk or crawl. She did this army type crawl or just sat and screamed. Her regular pediatrician started her on naproxen and ordered more x-rays. These x-rays cost me $75 each and again they told us nothing. Her doctor tells me just give it some time. She must have injured herself falling or climbing. I tried to tell him that she did not and that she has never climbed on anything, but he was not hearing me. Bring her back in a couple weeks if she is not better. Again, I brought her back, just a few days later the other leg was not working now. Her doctor wanted to order more x-rays, but I was furious at this point and refused to pay for more x-rays that were telling us nothing. I demanded a referral to a specialist. We were sent to Children’s Mercy. The orthopedic specialist spent just 10 minutes with us. He told me that day she had arthritis and sent us for blood work to make sure.
I thought this was crazy only old people get arthritis. I work with disabled children and I have seen a lot of things, but never a child with arthritis. I was glad to get the confirmation call at my job. I worked at Helen Davis where I was surrounded by caring adults and remarkable children overcoming obstacles. I knew that this was God’s way of letting me know that we could handle this and that it was not the worst thing that could ever happen. It was still devastating to know that my daughter’s pain was not going to go away as fast as it began. Thankfully, I had the experience of taking care of disabled children and co-workers that were willing to help me. I also knew some of the kids I taught were battling things much worse than arthritis.
We are lucky to have a pediatric rheumatologist just an hour away from our house. Dr. Lasky checked over Bre’s joints and we realized that it was in both knees, both ankles and she had some finger involvement. I remembered asking her doctor about that fat finger when she was just a few months old, but never really worrying about it much then. First thing he ordered was steroid injections into the knees and ankles. My husband and I were pretty scared. She was just 16 months old and this seemed like a big procedure. When we returned home that same evening after the procedure she climbed on top of the kitchen table. She had not been walking for months now and she had never been able to climb. We knew that this was an absolute miracle. When we went back to her doctor he informed us that the results would not last. We had to start the methotrexate. Like most parents we were scared and did not want to give it to our daughter. I prayed hard and put it in God’s hands. We had really good luck with it for a couple years. We gave it orally and avoided the in home shots. Her appetite was going down hill fast. She developed sores in her mouth. We added folic acid supplements and painted her mouth with a medication called"mouth magic". Things were getting rough and she was getting to where she refused to take the medication by mouth and would just spit it out.
Her regular physician questioned why she had to take that hard of a drug at all. He showed me her growth chart and explained to me since beginning the drug and losing her appetite that her growth was also affected. He began questioning if she needed the methotrexate at all. This began me questioning and against the wishes of her RA we stopped the methotrexate. She went a whole summer with no problems, but just like Dr. Lasky. her RA, said the arthritis came back with a vengeance.
We now have arthritis in knees, ankles and several small joints in both feet. She could not get shoes on her feet for a long time. The steroid injections did not work as well this time. I really made problems worse for her by stopping the medications. I changed her regular pediatrician to my doctor who has some experience treating children with arthritis. I started to really do my homework on what having arthritis means for my child. The researches lead me on a journey of knowledge. My daughter was not likely to just grow out of this disease. She is RF and ANA positive, meaning that her immune system has two glitches and these things don’t usually just disappear. I had to come to grips with the long term life of this. We had been fighting it for 2 years before I really accepted it and learned to do the research myself not to just rely on doctors. I will never lose hope of a life without arthritis for my daughter. I will always have hope for the best but be prepared for the worse.
We have found a local arthritis community services office and Debbie Braby. Debbie is an angel she came to me at my weakest time. She was the first person that was able to really relate to what I was going through. She told me that she has two daughters with arthritis and she has opened a whole new world for me and my daughter. We now attend regular arthritis swim classes. Although, Breanna is the only child in the class we still enjoy going and it really does help. We were also given a scholarship to go to the National JRA conference. That was a total life changing moment for us. Breanna and I learned that we are not alone there are lots of children and parents going through this and she was not the only baby diagnosed.
We have found a “can-do” attitude changes everything we no longer focus on what we can’t do we focus on what we can do! I decided to go back to school to become a physical therapist assistant when we couldn’t find someone local to do physical therapy for Breanna. I am proud to say I was accepted and I am half way through the program now. Breanna realizes that she can’t roller skate but she is a great swimmer. She wanted to play soccer really bad but decided she was better at softball. We try to not sweat the small stuff. She wants to walk to school with her friends and her sister instead of riding the short bus. On the days she can, she does I just call and let them know not to pick her up. She still gets the ride home because she is pretty much exhausted at the end of the day. Arthritis has been a crazy roller coaster of ups and downs. We try to cherish the ups and realize the downs will pass. We are on this journey together our whole family has been affected by this We are going to do our best to enjoy the ride. We have met some of the most extraordinary people and we have discovered strengths we never knew we had. God does have a plan and Breanna is being prepared to do really great things for God. That’s what I tell her when she is having a really bad day. I also secretly tell her that she is the toughest kid I know and by far the strongest of my 4 children.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Slaying our Dragon

In our house we think Arthritis is a dragon that confuses Breanna's Soldiers (immune system) to attack her joints. The methotrexate goes in to help get the soldiers attention. Sometimes it makes us feel icky for a little while but once the soldiers stop and listen they all go after the Arthritis Dragon together. Sometimes we have to send in the Orange Monster (Ibuprofen) when that Arthritis Monster sets our joints on fire. It steps in and says, "Hey you Arthritis! Why don't you leave her alone and pick on someone your own size?" Breanna helps with the battle by eating good nutritious food so that the soldiers can eat and be strong. She gets plenty of rest so that the soldiers can gain strength. She also has to wash her hands and keep them out of her mouth and off her face. So that the little monster friends (germs) of the Dragon can't get in to try and beat the soldiers. She also get lots of exercise and drinks plenty of water so that she can be strong to help fight the Arthritis.
Pretty cheesy but we love to act out slaying the Dragon! It gets her up and moving when she wants to lay down and give in. That's why she is my Warrior.
I pray that all the Arthritis Warriors slay their Dragons.

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Arthritis Advocacy Take Action Now Time is Running Out

As a parent of one of the 300,000 children who suffer from arthritis, a chronic, painful, and often disabling disease, I want Congress to pass meaningful health care reform this year that is accessible, affordable and comprehensive.

Arthritis is the number 1 cause of healthy people having to stop working and go on disability. There are 66 million adults living with Arthritis today and the number is on the rise. This disease cost the country $128 billion dollars annually. With early diagnosis and proper treatment this disease is treatable and many can continue living and working saving the governments money for the really disabled.

American families, both insured and uninsured, are struggling with rising health care costs. Due to the nature of chronic disease, people with arthritis struggle to pay for physician visits and the increasing costs of multiple medications and other necessary care to properly manage their disease. Without access to appropriate care, people with arthritis are at greater risk for complications and permanent disability.

I support health care reform which eliminates the discrimination for health coverage based on health status; caps out-of-pocket expenses; eliminates lifetime limits on health coverage; promotes prevention services, and supports loan repayment for pediatric specialists. These reforms are included in the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act and will greatly improve the American health care system for adults and children with arthritis.

I also support a bill mandating a National FDA registry of the Juvenile Arthritis Drugs being given to our children and the outcome of a patient's long term use. The drugs are working amazingly, but much research is needed to detirmine the long term effects and to address the current side effects of the medications. I don't want to see my daughter stuck in a wheelchair with excruciating pain. She was diagnosed at just 14 months old. I have seen the medication help her walk again twice. Her Arthritis is now manageable, although we still have those days that her shoes won't fit on her feet. We have to try to push through this everyday. She is only 4 years old now and she gets a shot every week that makes her sick for 1-2 days after. She is on folic acid supplements because of the sores in the mouth from medication. She takes 2 times the recommended amount of Prevacid because of the acid reflux the long term use of medications have caused. Along with a Rheumatologist she also sees a GI specialist. We fight with elevated liver enzymes that we monitor closely with lots of blood test. She always amazes the nurses and me with her bravery and strength. This disease can cause even the strongest of souls some times of frustration. It is definitely not a life for a 4 year old, but we continue to push forward. Because we want the chance for he to play and run and be a kid while she can. I do wish I had all the questions answered. I ask the doctors and pharmacists, "How will this medicine affect my child?" How can I be prepared for what is next to come when no one can answer the question of what are the long term effects of this? This is why I ask you, no I beg of you to please help us bring attention to the dyer need for more research and better record of this disease and its course of action. I hope to see changes as the legislation moves through Congress and maybe some answers to my questions in our future. Thank you for your consideration.

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Discipline of My Children



After baby number 4 my husband and I were so tired and so overwhelmed by the amount of work that we had to endure everyday. Because we had the last 2 babies back to back it was hard to get anything done. One person had to deal with them while the other worked their butt off. Then the older 2 girls were running crazy and doing everything, but helping. Usually, making more messes.

I knew I had to find a better way. So I came up with a system that not only encouraged good behavior but also incentive for helping with the house work.

My girls earn tokens for good behavior and housework. They cash in tokens for things like - one on one time, trips out to library or ice cream, a day off the dish duty, playing board games. I find a lot of the time they just want time individually with us. I make the amount of tokens reasonable 10-20. If it cost me money they have to have at least 20 tokens. I tell them that's because I have to do a lot of work to earn the money. So, I am also teaching work ethic.

First I thought of things the older girls can do.

My 9 year old is assigned morning dish duty every morning.
My 4 year old empties little trash cans and picks up toys every morning.
They have to do this everyday no complaints.

If they complain they still do it but when they are finished I let them know there will be no token awarded for the job. I only do this if they throw major fits.

We went to the store and we bought dry erase boards and markers, some see through containers, letter stickers and fun stickers, and some plastic tokens. I let them pick it out at the dollar tree so it did not cost a fortune. Only like $10 bucks.

We took these items home and started to decorate. They each have their own dry erase board with name and also a container for tokens with name. This took right off. They were both so excited to help and earn tokens.

This also helps with them to follow rules because they work to earn the tokens I usually only have to take one away for misbehavior.

On the dry erase boards we wrote down rules like listen to parents, no being mean to siblings. We left the real broad and simple. We keep track of chores done by smile faces. At the end of every night after brushing teeth,pajamas,and clean rooms they are awarded their tokens.

We usually leave Saturday open for cashing in the tokens.

It works if you work it consistently. It really is just a way to remind me to give them praise for when I see behavior I want from my children. And to discipline with out a lot of attention given on the matter.

When they misbehave they still get a warning that they will lose a token. Sometimes we have lost all tokens and still misbehave. I do still ground from T.V., outside, and phone. But not as often.

I have also established a way to calm my 9 year old's fits. We argue a lot. Now instead of yelling at each other we write notes back and forth until we have worked out the disagreement.

I also make her write sentences if she can not calm down to listen instead of relentless arguing we write sentences. I also write on her dry erase board. The latest things have been. "I must take responsibility for my actions." "My actions have consequences." "I am responsible for my own happiness."
"I must use problem solving skills 1. Identify the problem 2. come up with possible solutions 3. Act on the best possible solution."
" If I have a problem I can't fix I need to ask for help"

I always reassure her that being 9 is hard. She will be 18 in another 9 years and responsible for herself. She is already half grown. I have to set higher expectations of her. I can no longer physically make her do what I want. I can only let her know of the consequences of her decisions.

It really does work I am not afraid to take the whole bunch by myself to dinner or any where else. We always get compliments how good they are. My standards are high but I know they can do it. Plus I feel like I have to teach them all I can and fast cause they grow up so quickly.

My 2 year old is now earning tokens. Only one left to get on board.